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Finding Time for You
Even Super Mom Needs a Break
By Lisa Marie Metzler
"When we are stressed, overwhelmed and tired, we have a shorter fuse. We become irritable, and it's more difficult to handle the challenges of being with children," says Rachelle Disbennett-Lee, a personal life coach in Aurora, Colo.
Logically, we know that running ourselves on empty isn't good for our health or our families. But the instinct to be a devoted mother means operating in overdrive. We want our children to be happy, and we desire to give them every possible life experience, even at the expense of our own needs. We feel guilty if our children don't have everything we think they should have.
However, Victoria Moran, author of Creating a Charmed Life (Harper San Francisco, 1999) says we need to let go of the distorted images we have of the "sainted mother." "We've got to give ourselves a break, or we're passing the old guilt patterns along to our daughters," Moran says.
Heather Brockhaus, a busy mom in Bartlett, Tenn., used to struggle with the guilt factor. "If I didn't clean the house while my daughter napped, I felt like a slacker," she says. But being mother to a strong-willed toddler expends a lot of energy. Brockhaus realizes if she doesn't take advantage of her daughter's naptime to re-group, she's too stressed to be a good mother.
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