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December 7, 1999

Rubella Opinion

I was reading the series of prenatal tests. Just something I'd like to point out from personal experience about development of Rubella antibodies: I was vaccinated against Rubella as a child, and again after 3 pregnancies. Before each vaccine I had been tested, and apparently did not develop antibodies. I recently became pregnant again this August, and was thrilled to learn I finally developed Rubella antibodies (no more shots!). I'm not sure if it's typical to continue to give a patient Rubella vaccine after so many others appear not to have had an effect, but in my case, four seemed to make the difference.

Obviously you're not physicians, but unless multiple vaccinations is contraindicated for some reason I'm not aware of, perhaps women might want to consider talking to their physicians about trying again. I have several friends whose mothers contracted Rubella during their pregnancies. It's a poignant reminder to me how devastating this disease can be.

Crystal

One More Reply Re: Single Mothers

Dear Elisa:

I hope that you will give me one more chance to explain why K.F's opinions upset me. First of all, this is a site that cateres to pregnant woman, not women of a certain stature or religion. Don't get me wrong: I wish that I had someone to be with me through all the ups a downs, but it did not work out that way. If in the future he wants to be a part of this, I have told the father that I would not stand in his way, because I believe that both he and the baby deserve that. Under no circumstances, however, in the position that I am currently in would I ever give up my child for adoption. I do not think that anyone else could offer my child more than I can. I have a great job, which pays well and will give me the maternity leave I need and also is arranging it so I can work 90% of the time from home. This baby will have a huge family who will love her, just without a father, for the time being.

As for my childhood, YES, of course my father has remained a huge part of my life. I have grown up secure with the knowledge that BOTH my parents love me and my brother. They were simply two people who could not live together, but that never changed the way they felt about the two kids that they created. They went on to marry the perfect people for them, and my father had two more children (both girls) who I love more than anything, and the way I see it, had my parents not divorced, my sisters would not be alive. In my family, we are very close knit and loving, including my mother and father, who, even though they are no longer married, get along better than ever, and even get along with the present mates as well. I feel as though I had a better childhood then many of my friends, because my parents were real and not lying about various affairs and such because they were not happy in the marriages they were in.

Does K.F think that if a woman has a relationship with a man who beats her, gets pregnant and leaves him for her sake and the sake of the child, should put the child up for adoption? I have to say that I resent K.F. deciding that the best thing for MY child is adoption.

S.B

Webmother's Note: Thanks to both of you for sharing your opinions. In the future, this discussion may be better off held on the parenting debate e-mail list, found at http://pregnancytoday.com/lists/lists.htm.

Aussie Feedback

Great site. Only thing that would improve it for me is if you were at the same day as us in Australia. It seems to be just one day out in it's calculation.

Jules

Michele's Diary

We have been trying to conceive for almost two years. Because of a male factor problem, we had to jump right in to IVF. After five unsuccessful attempts, we are opting for adoption. For several months I have followed Michele's diary through her TTC process. I hope she is successful in her IUI attempt, but if she isn't, it sounds like she is going to pursue international adoption. Please encourage her to continue on the Preconception.com page. Many fertility patients end up opting for adoption and it would be beneficial if they tracked the process through her experience.

Thanks for allowing us to share in Michele's experiences and know that we are not alone.

Sandy


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