It's always helpful to get insight from experienced parents. In honor of Father's
Day, we've gathered great advice from our interviews with celebrity dads. Don't
think you have much in common with famous actors or athletes? Think again! The
dads below offer their perspective on raising children.
While most of us know actor/director/producer Henry Winkler from his role as
"The Fonz" on
Happy Days, many people are unaware that this dad of three is dyslexic. He only recognized
that he had the condition when his stepson, Jed, was diagnosed with it when Winkler
was 31.
Inspired by his experience with the condition, in 2003 Winkler began writing
a series of children's books
featuring the character Hank Zipzer, "the World's Greatest Underachiever." Today,
many kids feel better about themselves because they identify with Hank's struggles.
Winkler's advice for parents of children with learning disabilities is simple:
Don't be embarrassed. "A lot of times if their child is different in any way,
parents take it as a reflection on them," Winkler says. "They forget that learning
challenges are usually hereditary. They need to look within themselves."
Winkler notes that it's important to praise children for their strengths. "The
kid feels it and knows you are disappointed," he says. "As opposed to, 'You are
a wonderful person with a particular problem. We'll deal with the problem.' Every
one of my children has some sort of learning challenge, and they all did great
because we told them, 'You are great.' Parental support is like life's blood."
Kevin Costner is one of the growing number of A-list film stars that bring their
children to the set. Because many of the films Costner has starred in are not
geared toward children, he has taken a cautious approach to what his three kids
see him do.
"I don't want to be limited," Costner says. "But I shield them from things they
shouldn't be seeing."
Costner says the secret is to keep communicating. "My kids are involved. I talk
to them," he says. "I have talked to them always since they were little. I've
always engaged my children – about life, about what life means with us in the
public eye, how it's affected their lives – I've always talked to them about it.
So, God bless them, they're my greatest production."
Olympic Gold Medalist Bruce Jenner is the father of six and the stepfather of
four. Every day, he inspires his kids to find their inner champion. "I don't care
what arena kids choose to play in – sports, music, school, figure skating – I
encourage my kids to find something in life to get excited about when they wake
up in the morning," Jenner says.
Part of what makes his potentially chaotic family life work is consistency. "It's
very hard sometimes, but being consistent gives kids boundaries, and they like
that," Jenner says. "Sometimes you wonder if they're listening, but then they
come home with a great grade and you know they were."
The man who talks to all the stars is
Entertainment Tonight anchor Mark Steines, a father of two. Steines says the key to raising happy,
healthy kids is spending time with them.
"There is no substitute for time with your child," Steines says. "If you're going
to have a long lasting, deep, connected relationship with your child, you have
to start building that up at a very young age. So that when all that trust and
love and everything starts to be tested when they are teens, you've got a lot
to fall back on."
Steines notes that even in Hollywood, parenting is the great leveler. "When you
go upstairs to pick up your son, and you see him there naked holding his diaper,
completely empty with a pile of poop on the floor going, 'Uh oh!' at some point
you just go, 'OK, well I guess [Pierce Brosnan] is going to have to wait another
15 minutes while I get this cleaned up," Steines says. "It keeps you very centered
and real."